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Is revenge ever a good idea?
But while the need for revenge can be understandable, experts say it is never healthy. Some people equate revenge with seeking justice, but the two are not the same. People who seek revenge are driven by anger and violence and have not thought about how channel their negative feelings into something positive.
What causes someone to cheat?
A simple desire to have sex can motivate some people to cheat. Other factors, including opportunity or unmet sexual needs, may also play a part in infidelity that’s motivated by desire. But someone who wants to have sex might also look for opportunities to do so without any other motivators.
Do you believe that revenge is ever justified?
In principle, just because you did something bad to me is never a reason for me to do something bad to you. Doing something for revenge or to get even just makes more bad things happen. Sometimes we justify harming someone to teach them a lesson.
Why do I want revenge?
People are motivated to seek revenge — to harm someone who has harmed them — when they feel attacked, mistreated or socially rejected. Getting an eye for an eye, Old Testament-style, is thought to bring a sense of catharsis and closure. Evolutionary psychologists believe we are hard-wired for revenge.
Is revenge a justifiable emotion?
The desire to take revenge may be justified by the incapacity of the legal system of justice to fully restore the previous situation; but we cannot appeal to justice for help; only for condonation. Revenge can never be part of the system of justice; nor can it be justified as ‘just’.
How can I trust my husband again?
Rebuilding Trust
- Decide to forgive or to be forgiven. Make a conscious decision to love by trying to let go of the past.
- Be open to self-growth and improvement. You can’t repair broken trust with just promises and statements of forgiveness.
- Be aware of your innermost feelings and share your thoughts.
- Want it to work.